This site is a compilation of my thoughts, fears, experiences and efforts related to my son's diagnosis of neurofibromatosis and how I choose to acknowledge it. I also write occasionally about my oldest son's struggles with depression and addiction and his death as a result. I am a mother and I write to cope with the very difficult realities of life.
On Friday, February 24, 2016, I was pleased to be aGuest Blogger for Children's Tumor Foundation on the topic of NF Advocacy! If you've ever wondered what is involved in being a political advocate for a cause, this blog post may just answer your questions.
"There is something very powerful in knowing that you have a voice with important issues and that you can be heard. For me, NF Advocacy has become not only my right, but my responsibility as a mother..."
I sit here reflecting on the NF Forum weekend from my couch. It
is difficult to summarize all of the feelings that come from being surrounded
by greatness. From re-connecting and
making new connections, to being addressed by the Director of the NIH, Francis Collins, MD, PhD (one of the co-discoverers of the NF gene), and all of the
greatness in between, I am thoroughly, mentally and physically, deliciously
exhausted.
How do I describe the completeness that comes from being a part
of this amazing NF community; the only people in my life who really get
it? It is nearly impossible to explain
the bond, that we in this community have formed, to those who so generously
show their compassion and consistently support our efforts, yet do not share our journey. After having had the opportunity to spend time together I miss them all so deeply from the minute we separate. And with
every event, I expand my NF family, which invariably results in new little ones
for whom I will surely lose sleep.
My very first visit to Capitol Hill as an advocate for CDMRP
funding for NF research was an immersed learning experience. Thirty-seven of us
took to the Hill on June 5th to attend meetings with Congressional staff,
Representatives and Senators. I was
fortunate to be among a well-rounded team consisting of Squire Patton Boggs
Staff member, Karen Kudelko, CTF Staff member, Garrett Gleeson, an NF2 patient
from CT, Rhianna Curotto, an NF1 wife and mother from NJ, Farida Timal and me,
NF1 mom, a VA transplant from NY. As the
day progressed, and with it, our confidence increased, we each contributed a
unique perspective of the crucial need for continued support of DOD funding. I
am truly hooked to this newest role in my fight to #EndNF. If you are
considering participation in future efforts, please take this one piece of
advice very seriously. Wear comfortable shoes!
Our Chapter Council has one opportunity to gather together each
year. We call it networking time, but even more than that, it is a period of
time in which we are re-inspired and recharged to get back out there and kick
NF's butt. We are the public face of the
Children's Tumor Foundation; often times, the first contact an individual will
have with the foundation. As Chapter Council leaders, Jill Markland, Karyn
Zazula and I have the responsibility of guiding, inspiring and setting an
example for the nation's CTF ambassadors. We strive to assemble a day filled
with useful tools that this very important resource of people can take back
home and use to guide and inspire those in their own chapters. In recognition
of the greatness of this amazing group of volunteers, whose passion is driven by
love and hope, I created this video.
Dr. David Viskochil, co-director of NF Clinic, University of Utah
Just when I think I know all there is to know about NF (not
nearly), I learn many new things from the forum presenters and key-note
speakers. Some aspects are enlightening and will surely make my life easier,
while others destroy me with their possibilities. The varied topics on this
year's agenda gave me much to absorb. There were discussions to feed my psyche
about learning, coping, and improving social skills and there were topics to
fuel my intellect, covering pain, genetics, and tumor management. The malignancy presentation frightened me
beyond my own understanding and required me to take some time to regain my
composure. I am happy that I did, because the last two sessions about NF
history and current research recharged my battery. If the researchers and
doctors have had the ability to gain the increased understanding that they have
in just the past few decades, I am encouraged to believe that with advancements
in technology and new interest in NF research, they
will bring us much closer to a cure and effective treatments, very soon.
Dr. Maria Acosta, Children's National Medical Center
Jessica Cook, UK Director, Can You Hear Us?
Francis Collins, MD, PhD, director of the NIH, is an extremely
busy man. Yet, he committed to taking a brief amount of time out of his schedule
to address our group; the largest gathering of NF doctors, researchers,
patients and families to date.We are
indeed a contagious bunch. Although, Dr. Collins certainly had someplace else
to be, he continued to "work the room" and pose for photos after the
standing ovation his address elicited from the crowd.How could we not be in awe of this man's
greatness? He is the Director of the National Institutes of Health (NIH) and
the overseer of the largest body of work in biomedical research in the world.
He is responsible for landmark discoveries of disease genes and, in fact, was a
co-discoverer of the very gene, which changed the life of every single person
in that room in one way or another; the NF gene.
The evening progressed in its greatness with the real-life
account of this year's Children's Tumor Foundation Ambassador, Bailey Gribben.
At just 16 years old, Bailey has already experienced more than his fair share
of health challenges, yet he has never allowed himself to be a victim of his
circumstances. How easy it would be for him to sink into that role. Instead, Bailey rises to each challenge and
overcomes. Beyond that, he exceeds anyone's expectations, except for his own,
and excels in life. I, for one, will not be one bit surprised when the day
comes that Bailey has played a role in huge scientific advancements of NF
research. Has this ever actually occurred in history?
I think of Bailey, a young man I am blessed to know, when I read this Aristotle quote:
"The
beauty of the soul shines out when a man bears with composure one heavy
mischance after another, not because he does not feel them, but because he is a
man of high and heroic temper."
NF heroes Bailey Gribben and D. Anthony Evans
As I recovered from the lump of pride that Bailey's story formed in my
throat, one last speaker took the podium; Annette Bakker, PhD, President and
CSO (Chief Scientific Officer) of Children's Tumor Foundation. Dr. Bakker began her rein with CTF just
months ago after serving as the CSO for the past several years. She has not
allowed one role to hinder the other as her drive to #EndNF somehow continues
to gain momentum with every new advancement. "I am going to save your
children," was the declaration that got my tears flowing, partly because
nobody has ever said it before, but
mostly because I believe her. Dr. Bakker's passion about her research is awe
inspiring, but her genuine care and concern for the people affected by NF
touches my core. I am proud to serve the foundation that she so effectively
leads toward a cure.
Peter and I with NF Moms Stephanie and April
and CTF President and CSO, Annette Bakker
To say that my hope is renewed after this powerful weekend of being surrounded by greatness, is
clearly an understatement. I am at a loss to describe the myriad of emotions I
experienced over the course of these 4 days.
Advocacy, Community, Networking, Education, Engagement, Inspiration and
Encouragement are just a few of the words that summarize a Children's Tumor
Foundation NF Forum weekend. If you have not yet had the opportunity to
participate, you are missing out. Children's Tumor Foundation makes every
effort to reduce costs and select locations that will make the events
accessible to all. I would be happy to help you find a way to make it to the
next one, ten months from now.
Some highlights from the weekend:
VP of CTF, John Heropoulos with NF Moms April Anderson, Anita Gribben and me
NF2 Hero, Matt Hay, Anita Gribben, Tracy Galloway-board member, Peter and I
The beautiful Omni-Shoreham Hotel in DC
Storming Capitol Hill with Farida Timal Rhianna Currato
Politics!
NF Teens and Siblings hanging out together and having fun.
Words of wisdom from Communications Director, Simon Vukelj
Effective Communication by Peter Sorman, PhD at Chapter Council